Reality of a single man in his 40s + backstory included

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Confession of a single man in his 40s
[*Anonymous*] (Male)
2019-05-21 23.42
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Mahonjik is an unmarried man.
Married people often say they should not get married and envy single people.
Even single bachelors are not happy:
In my opinion, married people only have bachelors until they are in their 20s or early 30s.
It seems like you are imagining the life of a bachelor just based on your memories of that time.
In reality, it is not like that: it is really a struggle with loneliness these days:
1.Friend
It’s hard to see you married. Two or three times a week Boyfriends Once or twice a year
It’s hard to see too
Old bachelors hang out together, but there are only a few of them.
We didn’t become friends because our personalities matched, but because our situations were similar.
Even when we meet, I feel depressed and I also feel bad about the parts we clash with.
2. Blind date
Now things are not going well. It’s not an after-event, it’s not a blind date itself.
all:
Before we even meet, people get older and become out.
I don’t know if the other person is young, but even if they are two or three years older than me,
grow:
Didn’t you wait until now to meet an old man? -Su
Even if a blind date happens to happen, I only find out why I haven’t been able to get married until now.
Didn’t you wait until now to meet an old man? -Su
Even if a blind date happens to happen, I only find out why I haven’t been able to get married until now.
Here comes:
3. Love
It’s difficult for the same reason as above: It was difficult before, but now it’s almost impossible.
A feeling of being pinched
Of course, if you don’t look at your appearance and don’t put any conditions on it, you can have a successful relationship.
But even though I’m old, my image of the woman I want to date hasn’t changed.
4.Meetings, clubs
First of all, most people only accept people in their 30s. (Even if there are no rules, indirectly
not)
Even if you happen to join, it’s hard to get along with people because you don’t have a place.
Are you in trouble with your wallet?
Well, when I was that age, I also hated it when older people joined me drinking.
So I understand.
5.Family
Every time I see my parents, I sigh and say that I can’t marry them. I’m adding this because I’m sure everyone knows.
all
I feel like a sinner, so I naturally distance myself. I think it’s time to give up
place
The only thing that soothes me like this is a drinking game alone.
I’m as good at games as I was when I was younger, but playing alone in my room at this age wouldn’t be fun.
Here are:
I’ve never been married, so I don’t know how difficult married life is.
Even if you don’t get married, it’s clear that you’re not happy.
Of course, if you have a celebrity-like appearance or have a lot of money, you can get 40%.
Even though I can still live happily,
Most ordinary people face loneliness for the rest of their lives if they don’t get married.
It’s sexy.
Sometimes, when I drink alone, I feel terribly lonely.
I remember so many years ago that we almost got married and then broke up, and I regret it and it hurts so much.
yo. this
The conclusion is that married people have nothing to envy about unmarried men.
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Uo bunny | 026 93
It’s lonely not being married, but it’s painful if you get married wrongly.
UDT
Let’s work and make money
023 50
Wow… it’s so realistic it makes my eyes sweat.
7D
babirang
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Being single is lonely, but being married is lonely and painful.
UoD
Albireo71
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I feel lonely and afraid, and I feel sad and regretful about old relationships that never came true.
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Last year, I left a post on Punum All about a 40-year-old single person.
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However, someone put this article on the Internet.
It was caught on camera and spread everywhere. The inconvenience is the most, and there is no post even in the comment section.
I’m surprised that my post has become a hot topic.
After looking at Refull, there are a lot of misunderstandings, so I am making an additional post.
Not all people in their 40s are depressed like you due to not being able to meet people.
you’re right. Every person is a kabaket.
The belief that “you guys should not get married” is becoming popular on the Internet.
There is a strong feeling that married men are unconditionally envious of single men.
The married men I see in their 20s and early 30s enjoyed being single, and the single life in their 40s is very different.
So even if you don’t get married, when you get older
Loneliness I’m not happy because I regret the relationship I couldn’t make, so I’m so jealous.
This is the point.
As a result, because I focused on the topic of loneliness for emphasis, the writing ended up being more depressing than necessary ( )
In conclusion, I see a lot of comments from people who misunderstand the content of the post and are offended.
This is all because of my poor writing skills TT
2 Don’t you think you can’t meet women because you don’t make money and you’re a loser?
There are cases where a woman shows her interest first and he buys it, and there are also cases where the two of you are semi-semitic.
I took several pictures of the number one couple in the club. Of course, I’ve also been dumped.
Dating is something that doesn’t really stop, so it doesn’t end in the middle.
Shall we come?
(You can see the traces by looking at the previous post. I wonder if anyone will notice it, but it’s great)
As for the salary, there is a post about salary concerns on Flea. I see that there has been a time when I was scolded for bragging about my salary and commenting on my call time.
I guess it doesn’t look that familiar.
In other words, I think it’s a problem that even ordinary people who aren’t lazy can experience.
3 The problem is that the way you look at women without considering their age is the same.
>That’s right. I tried to fix this, but it didn’t work.
I lower my eyes! If you do that, I suddenly develop a crush on you. TT
To be honest, when I date decent people in their 20s or early 30s, when I see a person of the opposite sex who is obviously older,
No romantic feelings arise. I just want to go home and rest.
Of course, not only me but also other women feel the same way when they see jerks.
So, when we meet people of our age, we feel that we are friendly towards each other, and younger people tend to avoid people like me.
It becomes difficult to date.
4 What are you talking about when you say it’s a club that doesn’t care about age?
‘I’m not good at explaining this either.
When you go to a club, do you have a conversation where men and women gather together? Pleasure? There is the same atmosphere
It’s not a big deal, but it makes you laugh, makes you feel good, and even though you haven’t seen each other a few times, you go on an impromptu trip together, that’s the kind of atmosphere.
It’s a bit difficult to explain. Anyway, I’m sure those of you who know will know.
If you belong to such a group, you will feel a lot of loneliness.
Those places tend to attract people in their 20s and 30s, so there are cases where people are blocked from signing up.
How
Even after I go in, it’s hard to fit in like before and I end up walking around.
I felt sorry for him and left my hand.
Of course, I know that there is a club with older brothers and sisters, and I still go to one often.
It was a different atmosphere from that kind of fun.
Of course, I’m not trying to decide which one is better.
‘I’m also trying to get used to the atmosphere here.
5 If you only play games and drink alcohol, try picking up a hobby.
‘While going to art school, I exhibited, tried gardening, rode a bicycle, and did everything I was interested in.
But the biggest thing is that as you get older, your interests disappear, and hobbies you do alone have limitations in alleviating loneliness.
with people
I also have some regrets about my hobbies (see number 4 above).
Preparation or study required to try something new. Buying things, taking time to get used to them, training, etc.
This kind of energy consumption is getting more and more annoying, so the best thing to do is just get off work, have a beer, and watch TV or a movie.
Even if you’re a little motivated, it’s easier to try something new because your existing hobbies are limited.
I think this is the same for most people, but it varies from person to person coming a little sooner or later.
6 It’s not because I don’t take care of myself, but the older I get, the more I have to take care of myself.
>30s
Maintaining one’s appearance by maintaining self-care and hardening one’s cheeks becomes difficult once the wife turns 40.
Until 3-4 years ago, I also dated someone who was 10 years younger than me. TT
Even if you look like a celebrity and have a job, there is a limit to the time you can invest.
When aging has passed a certain level, there is a depressive atmosphere that can be felt no matter how much you decorate it.
To give just one example, when you are young, you can gain muscle and maintain good lines by exercising just a little.
Now, no matter what I do, I can’t get rid of my belly fat and extra pounds.
Of course, there are some attractive people in their 40s who are blessed with genes, but they are in the trillions.
I feel like there wasn’t a repool with the most opinions, so I added more opinions.
Looking back at the previous posts, there are some things that seem definitive, and I apologize if anyone is offended.
Anyway, what I want to say is
There are pros and cons to not getting married, and there are bound to be regrets about the path you did not choose.
Don’t regret your choice and find happiness here. no see.
Well then, everyone in their 40s, fighting.
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